What Is In Your Heart Will Eventually Show

b0cf090eb3590b5ff3fbad58be448df6.jpgThe moments we show our true colours is when the layers are peeled back. No one, not anybody, can be truly defined by their job, their appearances, how much money they earn, what education they have, what car they have, what clothes they wear, what house they live in, how many friends they have or what photos they’ve taken. External definitions do not bring long term happiness. The true happiness that we feel are the moments we act with kindness and love, lend a helping hand or spend time with loved ones. It’s the kind that we feel in our heart. I recently listened to a video here, where he reminds us to be a selfless and loving person even in the heat of the moment.

We may have times where we’ve compared with someone else, and automatically it can bring ourselves down. No one can be happy by comparing themselves or pretending to be someone else. The video mentions about taking off the mask. This is something that really spoke to me because I believe so deeply in being true to yourself. At the same time, as an INFJ, I tend to be very private and not show many people the true me completely. As much as I value being oneself, there is that slight contradiction where I do strive to be myself, but at the same time, not everyone will see me for me at a glance. But perhaps only over time, if not years!

As much as I love writing about fashion, art, film and books, the one thing I feel most important to write about are topics like this. They are messages we need a reminder of. The way we value life shouldn’t be of materials or from the way things look. Everyone is capable of kindness and improving themselves. The kindness that’s important, is doing things even when not a soul will see it. We often judge things from the way they look. People may judge a person the way we judge a painting or a book cover at a glance. Things are most often not what they seem to appear. Imagine the way the water looks on the surface, with its dark blue peaceful ripples, and picture a beautiful magical ancient ruin beneath. There’s a story hidden inside that we don’t see at first.

The title reads What Is In Your Heart Will Eventually Show from how much beauty, we may or may not see in someone the more we become closer. What is in our heart shows through our actions. When people start to open up to each other, there’s a part of them that’s unlocked. Their personality and a certain rawness start showing more and more. A beautiful person is seen from their heart, where over time it opens like a sleeping rose. In 1 Peter 3-4 reads: Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 

Art by Jiwoon Pak

When Do We Show Our True Colours?

apples.jpgThe first time I heard the words true colours, was when Eva Cassidy sang the song. Cambridge Dictionary defines true colours as the kind of person someone really is rather than what the person seems to be.  Imagine if something terrible happened in the world, do you ever wonder if this will peel who we are, and reveal everyone’s true colours? There was an interesting article I came by the other day, which talked about how money doesn’t change people, it simply reveals ones true colours. I feel that I agree with that in the sense that we have a choice in the ‘power’ and responsibility we are given. Is it only in crisis and instability, when we may show our true colours?

Perhaps in tough times, it may show our ability and stability to handle certain situations. It may also simply show what one may already have experienced before or how one copes with different scenarios. True colours to me just means who we are wholeheartedly, raw and naked. Not in the physical sense, but in who we are as a whole. It’s who we are, regardless of if we are in a tough situation or not. However, I do feel there are certain things that do reveal more of who we are. The one thing we know for sure, is that everyone is different. We all see the world in a different way. Everyone has their own values in life and people change for good or bad. No one is perfect.

How authentic and real are we with who we are in our everyday lives? There is power in being yourself. There is truth in being the person you were born to be, rather than striving be to someone you’re not. Regardless of how we react in a crisis, our true colours show in the simple hours of each day. The actions we take. Actions speak louder than words. How someone treats a waiter, the time someone takes to help or those who lend an ear to listen. What someone says about others, says a lot about themselves. “You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.” ― Audrey Hepburn. 

We show a lot about ourselves in how we treat other people. Sometimes, there are those that are more quiet and cold at first, but have a warm and kind heart. There may be those that are friendly and outgoing, but may gossip and speak badly about others or vice versa. True colours can often show from those who feel superior towards a certain person. Whether it’s by their career, appearances or status. A person I admire and value is the one who is honest. The one that doesn’t tell others what they are unsatisfied about you behind your back. They tell you upfront because they care about you and want you to change for the best.

There are small things from losing a game, the way someone treats animals, how someone speaks of others, what one often chooses to talk about, if they lose a job, how someone deals with traffic, the friends they make, what one values and so on. The importance of not judging others unkindly and unjustly, is because we all have something that makes us upset. Everyone has the chance to change. It’s important to just remind oneself to treat others how you would want to be treated. I still remember the days of being a waitress and meeting all kinds of people. If an egg wasn’t cooked exactly the way someone wanted, there are those who will politely ask for another one and there are those who will shout at you for another one.

A true friend is one that is happy for your happiness, and is honest to you no matter what. They may tell you things you may not want to hear, because they want the best for you. Lastly, in the words of J.K Rowling:

“Yes,” said Hermione in a heated voice, “he sacked her, just because she hadn’t stayed in her tent and let herself get trampled—”

“Hermione, will you give it a rest with the elf!” said Ron.

Sirius shook his head and said, “She’s got the measure of Crouch better than you have, Ron.  If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”

Image via Cabbages & Roses