When Do You Feel The Most Like Yourself?

ca522f9ecf118773ecf873d5067a33f6.jpgThis is such a powerful drawing, the way it expresses so many different messages. When I look at it, it gives me a sense of disguise, pretending to be someone else, changing our appearances, thinking in different ways, seeing things from different minds (and perspectives), the different sides of our personality, feeling disconnected from our mind and our body or being slightly (or a lot) different when we’re with certain people. I’ve previously written about being yourself here and here because one of the most important advice that’s always stuck with me is to be yourself.

At the same time, I definitely feel I am someone that hides parts of my personality with certain people, even when I’m being myself. I’m sure most people will be able to relate to this, as we don’t tend to reveal all of ourselves to just anybody. The people I feel most myself with would definitely be my family, Mr Penguin and very close friends. For example, when I was living at home, I’d sing and dance around the house without a care in the world. I was as silly as I am, or as talkative, quiet and strange as can be. When I live with other people I don’t know well, that part of me is not shown.

The moments I feel completely myself is when I sit alone, write in my diary, go for a long walk, talk with a loved one or read a book. It’s when I stare out the window doing nothing, drink quietly at a cafe, cook a meal, stare at flowers, be my silly self, sitting in the library, spy on a little sparrow, laugh with friends or have a meaningful conversation with someone. Feeling myself is when I simply talk the way I do, walk the way I walk, laugh however quiet or loud, see the world around me and remember all the things I’m grateful for. It’s moments when I speak my mind, stand up for myself and stay true to my values.

Perhaps you might feel the most yourself when you do something you love. It might be playing an instrument, playing a sport, being creative through drawing, dancing or sewing, teaching or watching a movie. It might be when you’re wearing something that you feel reflects who you are, or when you listen to a song. When I feel the most myself is when I feel comfortable, peaceful and confident. It’s when I am completely at ease and happy with who I am. It’s that feeling of not giving a fudge brownie about what anyone thinks.

We might feel most ourselves when listening to the sound of the waves going in and out, breathing in the morning fresh crisp air and walking in the rain with the sound of tapping against the umbrella. It’s natural to some extent to feel more yourself with certain people, but it’s unnatural to pretend, act another character or conform in order to fit in. There are certain people that bring out our silly, talkative, weird, strange, caring, random, quiet, loud, wise, funny and creative sides. So tell me, when do you feel the most yourself?

Art by Helena Perez Garcia

You Don’t Need To Wear Makeup To Feel Beautiful

413509047a75a934a36ca6a54a8b40ea.jpgThere are many articles online that have titles a long the lines of “How to look good without makeup” and that makes me feel all kinds of discomfort of what messages are being communicated to women and young girls growing up. This might seem hypocritical and I cannot deny I put makeup on days where I want to look more together. But the message of what I really want to express is that beautiful is ultimately a feeling. Aren’t we beautiful as we are? When did society become so superficial and judgmental of every detail of a person, even if their face has makeup on or not?  We become obsessed with the surface level of what is beautiful that we lose the true meaning of beauty.

We need to let people know that they are beautiful as they are. If you have a daughter in the future, you wouldn’t want to tell her that you only feel beautiful when you put on your makeup. We want them to embrace themselves wholeheartedly without feeding off what images are saying. It’s okay to put on makeup and allow it to enhance your natural beauty or allow it to emphasise your character just as ones personal style may. It’s not okay to make it a rule or seem like a fact that women can only feel beautiful if they wear makeup. I mean isn’t it sad to see things that tell us this celebrity looks surprisingly good without makeup or this person is brave for wearing no makeup. It’s absolutely wrong. We are all born naked into this world after all.

Feeling beautiful could be by: doing an act of kindness without expecting anything in return, giving someone a genuine smile, lifting someone up when they feel down, laughing about anything and nothing, embracing the skin we are born in, using your mind to create something wonderful, not judging others but trying to understand, listening to your favourite song, doing something creative (dancing, drawing, singing, playing music..), the beautiful quiet and unseen acts of people, generosity and positivity, unconditional self love or taking in the colourful nature around us. What ultimately makes me feel beautiful is the ability to be completely myself with someone. The feeling of comfort and confidence to be loose and silly. It’s the moments of smiling, talking and laughing with the ones I love.

Sure, we will have days where makeup does make us feel a bit more pretty, because we aren’t feeling beautiful. However, beauty should not be defined by makeup. On your physical elements, focus on what you love, whether it’s your smile, the colour of your eyes or your hair. Let’s remember to put emphasis on the wonderfully beautiful things that don’t only look on the surface too but look more deeply within. You are most beautiful when you spread the light inside of you. There’s that special spark within every person that makes them uniquely them. You know when you just meet someone, and they become more and more beautiful, or perhaps less so. The personality starts to outshine the first impression.

What makes you feel beautiful?