You Decide Your Attitude Regardless Of The Situation

0-cat-black.jpgThis is one of the most important lessons in life. Your attitude determines your choices and how you feel about a situation, and what you want to learn from it. The mind is everything. What you think, you become. We have a choice in what we want to focus on and how to deal with past hurt or tricky situations.  Everyone goes through bad times, and it’ll vary in different degrees, which is why no one should ever judge or compare others for what they’ve been through. If your mindset is always on past hurt then the storm in the past will always rain on you.

If someone seems like they have everything, none of that ever matters. It’s really the things we feel inside that determine how we live our lives. We all have a choice how to deal with situations and attitudes. If I feel annoyed, angry or upset at a situation, can’t I turn it around? If someone says something unkind to me or if I had to deal with a difficult client, I have the choice to choose how to react. That’s the power of how we think and what we do. It’s a lesson that lasts a lifetime but helps us grow wiser and learn from experience.

It’s normal to get upset from time to time (no one can possibly be happy all the time!), but those are moments we need to accept and grow from. I heard a story about a person who broke up with their girlfriend after she realised they would be in a long distance. After this incidence, he became despaired and lost his job over the year and didn’t know what to do with his life. This is just a simple example in that we have a choice in moving on and becoming a better person, or reliving the past and becoming more bitter about what’s been and gone. 6-cat-orange.jpgA good attitude can be contagious, and make those around us feel better. I read an article here The truth is, while you’re busy worrying about what others think of you, they’re busy worrying about what you think of them. And on the other hand, most people are likely thinking about things like what they’re cooking for dinner! Most people are more aware of what’s going on in their own lives, which is a good reason for not giving a fudge about what other people think. Caring what other’s think prevents us from feeling true happiness and freedom.

There are people who seem like they have everything, but perhaps when a disaster strikes, they instantly feel that it’s the end of the world. Whereas maybe those who have been through tough times or worked hard to be where they are and have struggled through many failures face the same situation, they may have a more calm attitude towards the situation. Of course, it’s a general example, because vice versa could be possible, it depends on the individual as well.

It’s important to also detach yourself from other’s problems in their lives. We must also go through our own failures, and decide how we can turn that experience into a positive because everyone will go through failure. We will all face rejection and disappointment, but it’s how we use those moments to make us more persistence and resilient that can make us stronger. Attitude is everything. No matter what situation you face, it’s ultimately your attitude that determines how you’ll feel. Live each day with gratitude, and know that one of biggest superpowers is your ability to choose!

Photography by Mg Frontera

To Do List & Words Of Love When You Feel Blue

2111f9c04edfc74488c7453e76693e9c.jpgThere are periods of time where I feel sad or down, and I’m sure many people may feel that way, especially if you have been through depression or have anxiety. The unkind thoughts come slowly creeping in, and before you know it you feel a grey cloud above your head. I find that a few of the ways to feel calm and peaceful is to distract oneself, do something you enjoy and be kind to yourself. Sometimes it’s nice to go outside and just breathe the fresh air for a moment or take a warm shower and lie in bed with the warm sheets with your eyes closed for a little while.

To do list:

  • Eat a meal that makes your taste buds satisfied
  • Go for a long stroll surrounded by nature or people watch in the city
  • Walk into a bookstore and browse the shelves
  • Watch a movie that makes you smile and feel warm
  • Listen to Jazz or whatever makes your toes move
  • Drink a hot chocolate to fill yourself with a little sweetness
  • Pray to God (or meditate in peace)
  • Write your thoughts down to let them out
  • Talk to a loved one about anything and everything
  • Remind yourself of all the wonderful things about yourself
  • Pat a cat (or dog) if you can, right under the chin where they like it

My dad has always been really helpful. He taught me that talent is a bonus, but persistence is what wins out. – Zosia Mamet

If I feel truly down, I don’t like to start saying unkind things to myself, and I find that thinking about the things you are grateful for in your life reminds you of how much you have. It reminds you to have self-love and the importance of positivity because it gives hope and drive. Those are aspects that make us more persistent and want to wake up in the early morning to start the day with an embrace and learn, experience and achieve. I find even if I try to muster the smallest smile, or look up at the clouds, it makes me feel a little lighter on the shoulder.

-No matter how hard this moment feels, it will pass. If it doesn’t matter in 5 years, then it’s not worth spending the time to worry about it. Nothing lasts forever unless we allow it to.

-Our lives cannot be defined by things that don’t give us true happiness. True happiness is the kind that we appreciate from a baby to the day we breathe the last few days of our life.

-Everyone is going through a journey, filled with pages of their own book. Nobody is perfect, and what may feel like the end of the world, never is when we wake up in the morning to a new day.

-We are all capable of change, and it can only come down to our own decision whether we want to improve or change something. Everyone is capable of being kind, and when you’re kind it fills your heart with warmth.

-You my friend are a beautiful soul, and if you’re having a bad day, I hope it pasts in a day or two so that by day three you’ll be smiling as happy as the last day you had a laughing fit.

The beautiful Audrey Tautou photographed by Dominique Issermann (I hope her smile makes you smile!)

5 Places To Go Thrift Shopping In Auckland

plain-white-background.jpgIn a strange but warm way, secondhand shopping makes me feel like I’m going to a shelter to adopt a cat and give it the love it deserves. It’s giving the piece of clothing another chance to be worn. It feels good to recycle and purchase something at a lower price in good quality. I was thrift shopping today and ended up purchasing a beautiful satin peach dress for $7. While I was browsing there was a pair of Gucci shoes for significantly a tiny fraction of the original price. Secondhand shopping is such a wonderful option for those on a budget or for anyone who wants to support the cycle of wearing clothes until the threads start falling.

1. Recycle Boutique is a consignment based fashion company specialising in helping you buy and sell your secondhand designer clothing. We provide a fun, fast and easy platform to recycle your wardrobe. Whether you’re looking for that designer piece or a quirky vintage gem, we pride ourselves on having one of the largest selections of recycled designer clothing in New Zealand. At present, a lot of our clothing is ending up in landfills throughout New Zealand. We need to recycle our secondhand clothing in order to reduce this textile waste in these landfills.

2. Tatty’s has a city outlet on High St, with a mixture of designer and vintage clothing. They also have a nice range of shoes, where I even spotted a pair of PAZZO boots! It was almost like a hidden little treasure on the street, as I must have walked past the store many times before I stepped inside. From the outside, it appears small, but as you walk in, there is a huge range of clothing inside for men and women. Everything is colour coordinated, similar to Recycle Boutique.

3. Paper Bag Princess is your one-stop shop for affordable secondhand clothing. With branded seconded hand clothing and awesome 70s, 80s and 90s vintage clothing, we have something for everyone. Paper Bag Princess is always on the look out for cool new trends and endeavours to find the coolest items for the customers. Keep New Zealand beautiful and purchase second hand to limit textile waste and support a sustainable fashion industry. Paper Bag Princess loves to support charities around New Zealand and donates proceeds to a variety of charities. 

4. Finders Keepers sells high quality recycled Women’s clothing and accessories. They’re a recycled clothing store based in Newmarket selling a wide range of clothing including current trend-based designer labels and retro vintage gems. Finders Keepers also offer an abundance of accessories, including jewellery, scarves, belts, shoes and bags.

5. Emporio U is a ladies designer recycle clothing store on High Street. They sell designer labels such as Prada, Gucci, Chanel, Max Mara, Dries Van Noten, Hermes, Chloe, Ferragamo, Armani, Zambesi, A. Winkleman, Marilyn Sainty, plus many more designer items. They have a range of different clothing for those one-off finds, daily wear or pieces for certain occasions.

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MEIER.Q Summer/Spring Collection 2017

01.jpgMEIER.Q  is about ever going growth and change, and always looking at things differently. They are concerned about the element of detail and surprise they can bring to each person who wears their clothing. Pursuing beauty through simple design, comfort and trend. To create a simple lifestyle is their philosophy. “關於成長與蛻變, 看待事物的面貌也調整了一些比起從前, 更在乎接觸時的感動與細節 追求美感的執著依舊, 找尋簡單中隱藏的設計巧思, 舒適中堅持的時尚品味, 這些, 變得更耐人尋味. 延長衣著的賞味期成為思考的核心, 打造簡單永恆感, 一段時間再從衣櫃拿出都能自信的著裝.” Shop the Collection here.Website|Facebook |Instagram02050601 (1)03 (1)All Images from MEIER.Q

Taiwanese Label Pazzo ‘Disney Villains’ Collection

08(1).jpg“充滿夢想的我們推出了自有品牌PAZZO. 決定從最近的地方出發,創造台灣在地的好感國民衣著. PAZZO 將回歸衣著最簡單純粹的質地,講求最基本的質感,由挑選好布料開始! 希望與大家共享對衣著的用心堅持與自在有感生活. ” From Taiwan to the world ” 是PAZZO 誕生的最初精神! 想把幸福感的新生活哲學傳遞給全世界知道.” View the amazing collection here. This is one of their older collections, but I just adore it. I don’t know about you, but when I was younger, the Disney villain that frightened me the most was the Wicked queen in Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. PAZZO’s current collection is the Summer Garde tes rêves Collection. Read more about Pazzo hereWebsite | Facebook | Instagram
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Listen to the wonderful Kimbra / I’m Wishing

All images from PAZZO

When Do You Feel The Most Like Yourself?

ca522f9ecf118773ecf873d5067a33f6.jpgThis is such a powerful drawing, the way it expresses so many different messages. When I look at it, it gives me a sense of disguise, pretending to be someone else, changing our appearances, thinking in different ways, seeing things from different minds (and perspectives), the different sides of our personality, feeling disconnected from our mind and our body or being slightly (or a lot) different when we’re with certain people. I’ve previously written about being yourself here and here because one of the most important advice that’s always stuck with me is to be yourself.

At the same time, I definitely feel I am someone that hides parts of my personality with certain people, even when I’m being myself. I’m sure most people will be able to relate to this, as we don’t tend to reveal all of ourselves to just anybody. The people I feel most myself with would definitely be my family, Mr Penguin and very close friends. For example, when I was living at home, I’d sing and dance around the house without a care in the world. I was as silly as I am, or as talkative, quiet and strange as can be. When I live with other people I don’t know well, that part of me is not shown.

The moments I feel completely myself is when I sit alone, write in my diary, go for a long walk, talk with a loved one or read a book. It’s when I stare out the window doing nothing, drink quietly at a cafe, cook a meal, stare at flowers, be my silly self, sitting in the library, spy on a little sparrow, laugh with friends or have a meaningful conversation with someone. Feeling myself is when I simply talk the way I do, walk the way I walk, laugh however quiet or loud, see the world around me and remember all the things I’m grateful for. It’s moments when I speak my mind, stand up for myself and stay true to my values.

Perhaps you might feel the most yourself when you do something you love. It might be playing an instrument, playing a sport, being creative through drawing, dancing or sewing, teaching or watching a movie. It might be when you’re wearing something that you feel reflects who you are, or when you listen to a song. When I feel the most myself is when I feel comfortable, peaceful and confident. It’s when I am completely at ease and happy with who I am. It’s that feeling of not giving a fudge brownie about what anyone thinks.

We might feel most ourselves when listening to the sound of the waves going in and out, breathing in the morning fresh crisp air and walking in the rain with the sound of tapping against the umbrella. It’s natural to some extent to feel more yourself with certain people, but it’s unnatural to pretend, act another character or conform in order to fit in. There are certain people that bring out our silly, talkative, weird, strange, caring, random, quiet, loud, wise, funny and creative sides. So tell me, when do you feel the most yourself?

Art by Helena Perez Garcia

What Is In Your Heart Will Eventually Show

b0cf090eb3590b5ff3fbad58be448df6.jpgThe moments we show our true colours is when the layers are peeled back. No one, not anybody, can be truly defined by their job, their appearances, how much money they earn, what education they have, what car they have, what clothes they wear, what house they live in, how many friends they have or what photos they’ve taken. External definitions do not bring long term happiness. The true happiness that we feel are the moments we act with kindness and love, lend a helping hand or spend time with loved ones. It’s the kind that we feel in our heart. I recently listened to a video here, where he reminds us to be a selfless and loving person even in the heat of the moment.

We may have times where we’ve compared with someone else, and automatically it can bring ourselves down. No one can be happy by comparing themselves or pretending to be someone else. The video mentions about taking off the mask. This is something that really spoke to me because I believe so deeply in being true to yourself. At the same time, as an INFJ, I tend to be very private and not show many people the true me completely. As much as I value being oneself, there is that slight contradiction where I do strive to be myself, but at the same time, not everyone will see me for me at a glance. But perhaps only over time, if not years!

As much as I love writing about fashion, art, film and books, the one thing I feel most important to write about are topics like this. They are messages we need a reminder of. The way we value life shouldn’t be of materials or from the way things look. Everyone is capable of kindness and improving themselves. The kindness that’s important, is doing things even when not a soul will see it. We often judge things from the way they look. People may judge a person the way we judge a painting or a book cover at a glance. Things are most often not what they seem to appear. Imagine the way the water looks on the surface, with its dark blue peaceful ripples, and picture a beautiful magical ancient ruin beneath. There’s a story hidden inside that we don’t see at first.

The title reads What Is In Your Heart Will Eventually Show from how much beauty, we may or may not see in someone the more we become closer. What is in our heart shows through our actions. When people start to open up to each other, there’s a part of them that’s unlocked. Their personality and a certain rawness start showing more and more. A beautiful person is seen from their heart, where over time it opens like a sleeping rose. In 1 Peter 3-4 reads: Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 

Art by Jiwoon Pak