Changing From An INFJ To An ENFJ

23f8e75622be4f3fa405fbc1ee750d81I don’t know what to say because I feel I am an introvert in many senses, but perhaps I’m a balance between an introvert and extrovert. Since 2013 I’ve take the personality test once a year, and each year it has always been INFJ even when I’d take it a second time just to double check. I took the test again at the end of this year (twice) and was pleasantly surprised when it said ENFJ. I even had to take it again to double check, but it said ENFJ again. After talking to a friend, we both said how we felt we had a lot of personal self growth and change this year. I really felt it as well, in the sense that I’m willing to do more new things and I don’t feel as easily drained in social and busy situations as I used to.

I am definitely still quite a low key, quiet, calm person and more on the reserved side, but I do feel I am more open in conversations and not as shy. I don’t feel any anxiety barely at all, except perhaps some nerves such as the first time driving. INFJ and ENFJ are both Diplomats and I can relate to both. I agree in INFJ that I’m creative, insightful, determined and passionate and that my weakness is being a perfectionist. As for ENFJ, I can relate to being tolerant, reliable and altruistic, and being overly idealistic. However, even after taking the test I do feel more connection in being an introvert and identify myself with many qualities of being an introvert, such as preferring to spend time alone.

As I have previously written, being quietly confident is a different way of being outgoing. Confidence isn’t loud, it’s an assurance in oneself and a comfort and embrace in who you are. No matter if you’re an introvert or extrovert, just embrace your own personality and who you are. I suppose in writing this it will likely be my last post addressing the myer briggs personality test, as it is incredibly fascinating but I don’t want to get too hung up about it as I did in the past. In a way it restricted myself because I felt like I had to fit what an INFJ was, but really I should just embrace who I am. We all have a special spark and uniqueness that can’t be taken away.

After taking the test, it’s also important to note that there is only so much that we can take away from it. Everyone has a very different personality regardless of their personality type. It’s a good way to have a general understanding of certain qualities, but even then it’s not always every description we’ll agree with. We always need a balance of introverts and extroverts in the world. There are moments where I can smile and talk lots with someone, and other times where I just want to be by myself. I really value meaningful conversations with others, but I’m also alright with having small talk with people now if I need to. We all have different humour, ways of talking and interacting with other people.

10 thoughts on “Changing From An INFJ To An ENFJ

  1. that’s true, although I do still genuinely feel more of an introvert in many senses, but perhaps because of some changes in personality invites some more characteristics of an extrovert! Let me know what your results are :)

  2. Thanks for sharing the link to the personality test. My results showed that I’m an “Advocate” INFJ+T. Now it makes more sense why I have this burning desire to start my blog Pearls & Casseroles as my advocacy to end mental health discrimination.

  3. I agree with you. From 2015 and 2016, I got ENFJ but by this year, I got ENFP. I was shocked at first. However, when I read yours and other sites, I’m not surprised anymore. I’m just happy that I get to meet someone who’s in the same boat as I do.

  4. Just stumbled upon your post…interesting. Ten years ago, I always tested as ENFJ but in the last 5 years I’ve shifted to INFJ which I think has actually always been my true self. I used to spend a lot of time trying to be loud, constantly socializing and trying to fit in with others until I realized it exhausted me.
    I think we do grow and change over time, and in the last year I’ve been feeling a bit more ISFJ than usual.

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