It seems timely to write this during exam period where I feel like I seem to be spending a lot of time on my own studying. Spending time in your own company is the peace and quiet we all need. Everyone will feel comfortable with different lengths of time spent alone. I find that spending a day just alone, reading a book, writing about everything and nothing, going for long walks, cooking a meal, window shopping, sitting in the library for hours, walking at the park or listening to music can be really enjoyable. However, I’ve found it’s often praised to be busy, socialising with friends and having an active lifestyle. The truth is it really is the simple things in life that are the best.
1) Embracing yourself completely. When I spend time alone, I feel the most completely myself. It gives one time to relax, reflect, connect with oneself and it’s good for your mental well being. Taking time out from the world and just being in your own space can allow one to think with more clarity and be in touch with who you are and what you value.
2) Entertain yourself with deep thoughts. I had a strange trail of thoughts the other day of how many hours, days and weeks of our lives we spend just walking, smiling, sleeping, eating and laughing. How many trees grow in our lifetime and how many cakes were baked today. How long do we spend watching movies and how many apples do we eat in a lifetime (I’m guessing enough to fill several trees if you’re a fruit lover).
3) Growing more self love. Treat yourself to something, such as taking a trip to the movies, as it will make you feel more appreciation being in your own company. It’ll make you feel comfortable laughing out loud and enjoying the time on your own. Self love is taking care of yourself mentally and physically. Having positive self talk is essential in maintaining a healthy way of thinking, and the energy you feel will be projected into the world.
4) The ability to focus and concentrate. There’ s a level of clarity in the quiet moments, and a time to think deeply. I find when I’m studying, being on my own helps me to completely focus on the task that I’m working on. This depends, as some people may prefer studying in groups, but I find studying alone makes me feel less distracted and more productive.
5) A sense of independence. If you’re used to doing many things alone, it can make you learn to be more independent. It makes you realise how much you’re capable of, and you’ll start feeling used to doing many things on your own without relying on others. You are your own company, and so it’s important to trust yourself, but don’t be afraid to ask for help when you do need it.
6) An introverts key to happiness. As an introvert, I crave a certain amount of time to connect with others, however, I also value time alone. The key to happiness is being completely comfortable in your own skin, sitting alone at a cafe, walking down the street, daydreaming at the park or traveling on a plane.
7) Time to clear the mind. If you’re out and about for most of the day, then when you come home it’s the perfect time to unwind and just clear your mind and restore your energy. I find spending time alone really helps with mental health, and allows one to feel calm and in a peaceful state of mind. After spending more time alone this year, I’ve had a lot less panic attacks.
8) It makes you more creative. When you’re alone, your creative juices will flow more. Think of when you were a child playing on your own, and creating something with your hands. If you’re a musician you will understand the feeling of practicing alone in order to really feel the music. It also makes me think of an artist or writer spending time alone in order to express their ideas.
9) Enjoying the simple things. When you appreciate the time on your own, it’ll make certain things more enjoyable, such as commuting on a bus everyday or going to the supermarket. It makes you feel a sense of presence and an awareness of your thoughts and your existence on this Earth.
10) You are more in touch with who you are. I find that when we spend time on our own, we can really think about our own values and know who we are in a deeper way. You know yourself better than anyone else, and only you can know what makes you happy or sad and what things you like or dislike. Being alone also makes you more aware of what you care about and what you spend your time doing.
What do you like to do when you’re spending time alone?
Art by Giulia Tomai