Femininity isn’t defined by the length of your hair, the makeup you wear, the width of your waist or the bra size you wear. It’s not defined by whether you have long lashes, wear dresses or heels. It’s ultimately the way you embody yourself as a female individual. It strips away any stereotypes of what it means to be the classic woman, but reminds us what it is to be unapologetically our own person. Take the example of how you can still be feminine with short hair. Think of Cate Blanchett, Natalie Portman and Sigourney Weaver who have all shaved their heads before.
As a teenager, I was someone who mostly wore sports bras or camisoles underneath my uniform. I wore shorts throughout the last years of my schools, because the skirts were too long for me, and I didn’t want to sew the hem to make them shorter, as many girls did. When I think of the way femininity cannot be defined by social norms, I think of Cate Blanchett wearing a suit and absolutely killin’ it. The misconception often tied with femininity is that it has to completely do with how one appears. The truth is that it has more to do with how we feel.
It’s the feeling of self confidence and happiness that exudes and shines through. It’s the intelligence, wit and fearlessness one holds. There are no rules in being comfortable in your own skin. As someone with a somewhat flat chest, I don’t wear a bra most of the time. It’s not a deliberate decision to make any point, but it’s simply for comfort. However, after my teenage years and really embracing the body I’ve grown up in, I realise how much society often defines having breasts as sexy and feminine.
It’s silly to define a certain physical element as better than someone else, when this is the body we were born with when we came into the world. It’s almost like someone saying to you “You look prettier with makeup on”. We live in a highly visual and social media interactive world. I’d rather see a person by their character, than treat them by the way they appear. Our bodies are ultimately a place to keep us healthy and lively. There is no denying that breasts make up a significant part of the female identity, but it certainly doesn’t define one. When we think about the function of the bra, it is to primarily provide comfort and support. Femininity is not defined by your bra size.