Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

08de208868eed07f34cd0232ff7d693aAbsence makes the heart grow fonder means that when the ones we love aren’t with us, they become more dearer to us. Phrases words it as The lack of something increases the desire for it. Long distance makes one grateful for the time you can spend with your loved ones. Whether it’s your family, friends or partner. The scent of Jasmine beside my bedside table reminds me of the country side. It’s amazing how much smells, music, food and places can give you familiar memories of the time you spent with loved ones. Long distance relationships tend to rely on regular communication in order to maintain a strong sense of closeness.

Staying in love and staying in touch is a choice. It allows for you to miss the other person, and reminds you why you’re with one another. Distance can often strengthen a relationship, when both are committed in making it work. Distance also means knowing more of who you are as an individual. It’s extremely important to know your own interests and independence. Space can make one miss their other half more, and it can make one love one another even more. For most of us when we left school, the likelihood of us keeping in touch with everyone is very slim. It shows that even through distance and absence, our true friends, family and loved ones will always keep in touch.

It can also widen your perspective and gives time for the both of you to realise how important you are to one another. It gives time to think and talk about things you really want to express, as well as bringing both of you closer. There’s this sense of longing and waiting that makes you excited for the next time you see your other half. Absence also allows us to know what our heart wants and what we want for our future. It gives us time to think and reflect. I do believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder. It refers to not only LDR’s, but also family and friends. If you see your family rarely, then the time spent with them is deeply appreciated.

Art by Yelena Bryksenkova

2 thoughts on “Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

  1. Distance is a funny thing. It can make us forget some things, but it may never change the way we make us feel and I suppose that is what makes what many long distance relationships tick. Agree with you distance can make us independent and more importantly, it will make us realise what is important to us. The more we spend time by ourselves, the more we find out what we truly enjoy, what makes us happy and who we want to be around with when we have the time. If we truly love someone, we will make time for them. Always. Presence and showing up for them, no matter how long or how short or how random, now that is love.

    1. Thank you for your comment. You said it so well, ‘it may never change the way we make us feel’. I was in a two year long distance relationship with my partner before moving to Sydney. Now, being back in NZ, we’re back in a LDR. As you said, there is also the benefit of when we spend time alone, we can discover more about who we are as a person.

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