When Do We Show Our True Colours?

apples.jpgThe first time I heard the words true colours, was when Eva Cassidy sang the song. Cambridge Dictionary defines true colours as the kind of person someone really is rather than what the person seems to be.  Imagine if something terrible happened in the world, do you ever wonder if this will peel who we are, and reveal everyone’s true colours? There was an interesting article I came by the other day, which talked about how money doesn’t change people, it simply reveals ones true colours. I feel that I agree with that in the sense that we have a choice in the ‘power’ and responsibility we are given. Is it only in crisis and instability, when we may show our true colours?

Perhaps in tough times, it may show our ability and stability to handle certain situations. It may also simply show what one may already have experienced before or how one copes with different scenarios. True colours to me just means who we are wholeheartedly, raw and naked. Not in the physical sense, but in who we are as a whole. It’s who we are, regardless of if we are in a tough situation or not. However, I do feel there are certain things that do reveal more of who we are. The one thing we know for sure, is that everyone is different. We all see the world in a different way. Everyone has their own values in life and people change for good or bad. No one is perfect.

How authentic and real are we with who we are in our everyday lives? There is power in being yourself. There is truth in being the person you were born to be, rather than striving be to someone you’re not. Regardless of how we react in a crisis, our true colours show in the simple hours of each day. The actions we take. Actions speak louder than words. How someone treats a waiter, the time someone takes to help or those who lend an ear to listen. What someone says about others, says a lot about themselves. “You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.” ― Audrey Hepburn. 

We show a lot about ourselves in how we treat other people. Sometimes, there are those that are more quiet and cold at first, but have a warm and kind heart. There may be those that are friendly and outgoing, but may gossip and speak badly about others or vice versa. True colours can often show from those who feel superior towards a certain person. Whether it’s by their career, appearances or status. A person I admire and value is the one who is honest. The one that doesn’t tell others what they are unsatisfied about you behind your back. They tell you upfront because they care about you and want you to change for the best.

There are small things from losing a game, the way someone treats animals, how someone speaks of others, what one often chooses to talk about, if they lose a job, how someone deals with traffic, the friends they make, what one values and so on. The importance of not judging others unkindly and unjustly, is because we all have something that makes us upset. Everyone has the chance to change. It’s important to just remind oneself to treat others how you would want to be treated. I still remember the days of being a waitress and meeting all kinds of people. If an egg wasn’t cooked exactly the way someone wanted, there are those who will politely ask for another one and there are those who will shout at you for another one.

A true friend is one that is happy for your happiness, and is honest to you no matter what. They may tell you things you may not want to hear, because they want the best for you. Lastly, in the words of J.K Rowling:

“Yes,” said Hermione in a heated voice, “he sacked her, just because she hadn’t stayed in her tent and let herself get trampled—”

“Hermione, will you give it a rest with the elf!” said Ron.

Sirius shook his head and said, “She’s got the measure of Crouch better than you have, Ron.  If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”

Image via Cabbages & Roses

7 thoughts on “When Do We Show Our True Colours?

  1. Such a well-thought our post, Katie. Agree that our true colours is about who we really are and not just us at face value. It probably takes time for us to see someone’s true colours – as you inferred, certain situations like the more challenging ones not only test our patience but also demonstrate our character through the choices that we choose to make. I’ve worked in customer service for a while especially on the phones on the frontline. Some people I’ve encountered think they can get their way by shouting and making threats when in reality it never makes things easy – and is also a sign of insecurity. But I suppose when we are presented with vulnerable situations, that’s when our true colours show too.

    1. Happy new year Mabel and thank you so much. I respect your ability to cope with a wide range of different customers. Customer service is not an easy job, especially when there are negative customers that slow down the process of getting things done smoothly.

  2. I feel funny calling anyone my inferior. I guess I understand what you mean here and I guess I treat everyone equally although I don’t necessarily warm up to everyone.

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