Do you remember the way words would travel as fast as a bird flying by, and one moment everyone at school or work would know about someone or something? It’s the realisation that: Most people you interact with will talk about you if they discover something about you. Sometimes it’s not in a bad way, but sometimes it’s not kind. I’m not sure when it was exactly that I stopped trusting as many people, but it comes from a place of being hurt when your trust breaks with someone you deeply trusted or felt a connection with. The amount of people that judge through surface leveled information really appals me. It really does. I cannot fathom why some people judge so harshly on others on the way someone looks, what they wear and what they do for a living.
There are only a handful of people in my life that I can trust with my heart. Unfortunately there are a lot of fake and untrustworthy people in this world. Then there are also those that truly have a kind heart but they speak words to everyone. I remember a friend I made several years ago, I drew closer to her and over time I opened up about certain parts of myself. What really hurt me most was that she ended up sharing those parts of myself with other people. As I grow older I have less and less friend over the years, because I am very careful with who I can call a close friend. True friends are quality not quantity. Having a friend that shares similar values with you is really important.
That is why there is importance in thinking before you speak. A true friend is one that will listen to you. They won’t nod their head a long with you in everything you say or tell you what you want to hear. They will tell you when they feel you’re wrong or give their best advice to you because they want the best for you. Think of it as if you were shopping with your friend, you want give her the best honest feedback. “Sometimes people who don’t socialize much aren’t actually anti-social, they just have no tolerance to drama and fake people.” – Unknown. This rings true with me, as I prefer to spend time alone or spend one on one time with someone close.
Be mindful of who you choose to trust. It’s natural when we’re young there is a certain purity and innocence in the way we might trust most people, because we believe there is good in every person. I know that is definitely how I felt, which was why I was often called gullible. I really wanted to believe that what one says is out of heart, but as you grow older you know that is sadly not always the case. I was extremely trusting, and as much as I wish today that people have good hearts (and part of my heart does still believe this), we cannot trust most people.
True friends are those that don’t need to know everything about you. They try to understand and can sit with you in silence with ease. If you have problems in your life, always tell someone you completely trust.That’s why I don’t think people need to know so much about someones personal life. Which is why I always get surprised when I hear about someone I’m not close to asking about my personal life. Anyone can smile and be friendly, but it is very rare to come by an individual that deeply cares for you. True friendship is precious. Remember to hold onto them.