Why I Would Never Have Plastic Surgery

3b42f694ce8532e9c4e1424503b7058f.jpgWhen I hear people mention getting this and that, the way I try to understand it, is the way I felt extremely insecure about my teeth, and so I decided to get braces to do something about it. I know it is quite normal and popular in South Korea to have plastic surgery. The reality is that we live in a shallow world. Many times, insecurities may arise from seeing certain standards and perceptions of beauty that society defines as beauty. For example, when I started to see the way no crooked teeth were very often seen in the media, as a 12 year old it made me feel like they should be straight.

The media often says that a women is feminine if she has breasts. As someone with a somewhat flat chest, I really embrace them because I really do enjoy a bra-less life. A part of my mindset, is that I don’t want to change the way I look from the way I was born into the world. That is the gift I was given by my parents. The extent women are pressured to look presentable in society is massive. The amount of horrible judgment and comparisons that women have against other women is really terrible. There are many people who are very competitive with their looks, then there are those who are striving to stay young. I really believe that growing old naturally, is a simple reminder that being young is ultimately a feeling, since no one can be young forever.

I do know that for some, it is really something they want. They are no longer happy in their own skin. I do think that before anyone changes something about themselves physically, they need to have self love for themselves and see the situation beyond its physicality. I remember reading about someone who was over weight. She talked about how when she lost the weight, she still felt the same, in terms of not feeling good in her body. This is an example that shows that happiness and self love must be planted from within, in order to flourish and grow outside. Everything I speak for is to embrace ones natural beauty. It’s something that I would want to carry down to my children.

Many young girls grow up putting more emphasis and importance on being ‘pretty’, rather than being smart, creative, intelligent and inventive. There is a warped image online, especially on social media, of a type of beauty that is re-modified with edits, lighting and filters. They are not a reality, but they have a huge influence on the way many people may view what is beautiful. The harsh truth is this – very often the people who fit societies definition of beauty are treated better. I say this very generally, but that is how I feel about it in many circumstances.

Confidence is something that the stronger you feel it, the stronger other people can feel it. People can always sense your confidence, and that is something that is far more attractive. It’s contagious to see someone feel good in their own skin, be a kind person and make other people feel good about themselves. There are certain reasons where plastic surgery is a need, rather than a want. Perhaps it may be a jaw reconstruction surgery to realign the jaw and so forth. In Asia, there is a common pattern of many people having similar procedures. Double lids, v-shaped chin, sharper nose and bigger breasts. A part of me wonders if this will cause many people to look alike when many people strive for a similar look.

The way I do try to understand plastic surgery a little bit, is the way we might want to stay fit, wear makeup, take care of our skin and hair or fix our teeth. It’s a choice. Why I would never do it, is because I believe appearances aren’t everything. No matter how much I may take care of the physical parts of myself, I put more value and time in other areas. I really try put my focus on becoming a better person, developing skills and learning from my mistakes. However, our society does praise beauty which is also a factor of people trying to obtain the idea of it, rather than seeing their own. An important thing to emphasise is that if you believe you are beautiful by societies standards – it doesn’t mean you are a better person than the person beside you. Your self worth is not on your skin, it goes far deeper than that.

What are your thoughts on plastic surgery?

If you’d like to read a similar discussion on plastic surgery, a beautiful message by Jen on plastic surgery, beauty within and true beauty can be read here

art by Yelena Bryksenkova

8 thoughts on “Why I Would Never Have Plastic Surgery

  1. Same. As much as I want to, I’d never do it.

    It opens the path to Hell. Once you do it the first time — and you will get amazing improvements — you are addicted to the feeling of empowering yourself (through physical beauty) and before you know it, you’re under the knife again.

    When is enough enough?

    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I feel that the more someone may keep trying to attain their idea of physical beauty, the more likelihood they will mostly put importance on the physical aspects of themselves.

  2. I agree with everything you say here, especially the part where you talk about our confidence being contagious. The more widespread it is, the more people will believe it. I often feel the tendency to be more ‘superficial’ when I look too much into what other people have been (e.g. YouTube videos). This kind of reminded about how we’re dealing with depression right now. It’s so common in America that you see all kinds of celebrities talking about it – which is great – but it kind of feels like people ‘need’ to feel that way to be entitled. In other words, depression has become ‘normal’, so much that people who would have only been depressed (instead of clinically depressed) believe there are things wrong with them. Sorry for going off the topic, but the way we view plastic surgery is kind of like that: if it’s popular, we believe that changing the way we look is the norm; if it’s not, we feel bad when we do want to change the way we look. Double standards, basically.

    1. Thank you for your comment, it really made me think deeply about it! I suppose when celebrities talk about it, we need to realise that they are just normal people as well that aren’t perfect and may have experienced a mental illness. However, so many people do look up to them. For those who have experienced mental illnesses, from my perspective it seems silly for someone who doesn’t have one to feel the need to have one. But, as I mentioned in the last comment, I do feel it’s something that needs to be educated, rather than kept hushed.

      I do feel mental illnesses have grown a lot in our society, because of the ever changing lifestyle in daily lives and the stigma attached towards it. I feel our society often wants to appear happy all the time, as you mentioned with Youtube videos, and also the media where there is that glossy and well presented image that is often presented. Perhaps that is one of the many reasons people want plastic surgery, because they want to attain what they think is the ‘perfect’ image, but even the most famous and deemed beautiful celebrity in the world, does not have a perfect life.

      1. Your comment about society wanting to appear happy all the time reminds me that it’s actually contradictory. If we take YouTubers, for instance, their videos portray them with these amazing lifestyles. But they also make more personal videos, many which are about their identity and mental health issues – which enables the audience to identify with them. But theen – and this is mainly for females, as far as I’m concerned – they also post about beauty alterations they’re doing to their face. I’m usually not very anti-beauty surgery simply because I believe a person has complete autonomy over their own body, even if it means changing it. But the way YouTubers and media people, who influence a lot of (young) people, are doing it is very.. confusing. They talk about life not being perfect all the time – which is completely fine, but they also make (superficial) changes to themselves that suggest otherwise.
        Sorry if this comment got too ‘heated’, but, as you can see, I still find it all so confusing.

  3. I love reading your comments, I think it’s great to have a conversation about it with someone on a deeper level. I feel the confusion too, I remember a few years ago I watched quite a few Michelle Phan’s videos. I still admire her til today, for her work ethic, creativitiy and positive spirit. A few years back I couldn’t help notice that although she was encouraging embracing one’s natural beauty to millions of girls around the world, she had altered her own facial image. Every person has their own insecurities, and I’m sure influencers want to encourage positive messages, but it is confusing when they contradict.

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