When I hear people mention getting this and that, the way I try to understand it, is the way I felt extremely insecure about my teeth, and so I decided to get braces to do something about it. I know it is quite normal and popular in South Korea to have plastic surgery. The reality is that we live in a shallow world. Many times, insecurities may arise from seeing certain standards and perceptions of beauty that society defines as beauty. For example, when I started to see the way no crooked teeth were very often seen in the media, as a 12 year old it made me feel like they should be straight.
The media often says that a women is feminine if she has breasts. As someone with a somewhat flat chest, I really embrace them because I really do enjoy a bra-less life. A part of my mindset, is that I don’t want to change the way I look from the way I was born into the world. That is the gift I was given by my parents. The extent women are pressured to look presentable in society is massive. The amount of horrible judgment and comparisons that women have against other women is really terrible. There are many people who are very competitive with their looks, then there are those who are striving to stay young. I really believe that growing old naturally, is a simple reminder that being young is ultimately a feeling, since no one can be young forever.
I do know that for some, it is really something they want. They are no longer happy in their own skin. I do think that before anyone changes something about themselves physically, they need to have self love for themselves and see the situation beyond its physicality. I remember reading about someone who was over weight. She talked about how when she lost the weight, she still felt the same, in terms of not feeling good in her body. This is an example that shows that happiness and self love must be planted from within, in order to flourish and grow outside. Everything I speak for is to embrace ones natural beauty. It’s something that I would want to carry down to my children.
Many young girls grow up putting more emphasis and importance on being ‘pretty’, rather than being smart, creative, intelligent and inventive. There is a warped image online, especially on social media, of a type of beauty that is re-modified with edits, lighting and filters. They are not a reality, but they have a huge influence on the way many people may view what is beautiful. The harsh truth is this – very often the people who fit societies definition of beauty are treated better. I say this very generally, but that is how I feel about it in many circumstances.
Confidence is something that the stronger you feel it, the stronger other people can feel it. People can always sense your confidence, and that is something that is far more attractive. It’s contagious to see someone feel good in their own skin, be a kind person and make other people feel good about themselves. There are certain reasons where plastic surgery is a need, rather than a want. Perhaps it may be a jaw reconstruction surgery to realign the jaw and so forth. In Asia, there is a common pattern of many people having similar procedures. Double lids, v-shaped chin, sharper nose and bigger breasts. A part of me wonders if this will cause many people to look alike when many people strive for a similar look.
The way I do try to understand plastic surgery a little bit, is the way we might want to stay fit, wear makeup, take care of our skin and hair or fix our teeth. It’s a choice. Why I would never do it, is because I believe appearances aren’t everything. No matter how much I may take care of the physical parts of myself, I put more value and time in other areas. I really try put my focus on becoming a better person, developing skills and learning from my mistakes. However, our society does praise beauty which is also a factor of people trying to obtain the idea of it, rather than seeing their own. An important thing to emphasise is that if you believe you are beautiful by societies standards – it doesn’t mean you are a better person than the person beside you. Your self worth is not on your skin, it goes far deeper than that.
What are your thoughts on plastic surgery?
If you’d like to read a similar discussion on plastic surgery, a beautiful message by Jen on plastic surgery, beauty within and true beauty can be read here