We live in a society where many people judge and treat others based on their looks. Have you ever had an experience talking to someone, and then felt that they spoke differently with another person beside you. Perhaps the tone in their voice changes, the eyes look more engaged and various other signs that are a giveaway. I previously wrote about how we live in a shallow world and how to stay true to yourself in a superficial world. Whether it is in friendship or any relationship, we always meet people first by seeing the way they look, before sinking deeper into their personality. There is a concept that people who are considered more attractive are more trustworthy and likely to be successful.
Although, I could write about many different examples, Appearances will always be valued at various degrees. I still feel that it is very shallow and unreasonable to compare someones self worth with the way they look. In hoping to not contradict myself, I do want to write about it from both point of views. Everyone has such different personalities and beauties within that can be seen if given the time to get to know them. Another aspect is the different experiences we have all been through. No matter how much we perceive someone visually, we cannot imagine or judge what they have been through. It’s only when we speak, listen, give our time and engage, that we can understand.
When I wrote about what really matters in the world, I genuinely believe that the world needs more kindness, love and compassion. I believe that the most important thing at the end of the day is the relationships we have with people. Yet, with most people we barely scratch the surface. We walk around past thousands of strangers in our life time. Judgement of a film, book or a person before giving them a chance, can make a person lose the chance of possibly unfolding and diving into a wonderful story or friendship. Perhaps the reason why people judge, is because there is an assumption that if we feel someone is unattractive or attractive, it will be connected to positive or negative traits they may possess.
I previously wrote about why I deleted my personal Facebook, and in many aspects I felt that having a Facebook with hundreds of primary, high school and university friends and acquaintances started to feel like many people used it solely to judge others. Whether it was what they currently look like now, what someone did on a Friday night, what job they have and so on. I now have a private Facebook with literally 5 people, who are family members that I message. As much as I try not to judge, I am someone who is a more ‘keep to myself’ sort of person, where most of those thoughts tend to stay in my head. But I think there is an importance in what we speak that should be considered, whether it’s kind, constructive or necessary.
Although, I have been speaking strongly about not judging a book by the cover, it’s only fair to see it from both sides of the coin. There are many times where small situations may cause us to judge by the cover. For example, I noticed that I get asked a lot for directions or asked to take photos for tourists. I generally have a friendly face, I don’t use my phone on the streets, I’m generally very aware of my surroundings and seem more approachable to some people. Maybe it’s a good thing and maybe it’s not. There are certain situations that causes us to naturally judge someone by their appearances. We may judge ones appearances for our safety at night time or a persons outfit for an interview. There is a difference between fair judgment and condemnation.
In terms of body image, we tend to judge a bigger body in leaning towards the unhealthy side and a slender figure with a healthy body. Whereas, that may not necessarily be the case, as body image does not determine inner health. The truth is people will always judge. When you walk down the streets, people aren’t able to see your wonderful humour, great personality or way of speaking. The important thing to remember as an individual, is to stay true to yourself. When we get caught up with the world, it can be quick to be absorbed into the superficiality. Remember to stay grounded, honest, true and focused on what is really important in life.