This is a blog post I have been meaning to write for quite some time. It all started with my first part time job back in 2011, and how I came to realise that certain jobs were not suited for me. I believe that some INFJs and HSP (highly sensitive person) may feel the same, and I hope that you may be able to relate to parts of this article. When I was in high school, I was a lot more quiet and extremely private. There were only a very few people that I would open up to, and even then I did not like to give too many details. Over the years, my main barrier is searching for a job where I feel comfortable being in. The first part of this article I want to start with, is the jobs that are generally not suited for someone who is INFJ, HSP and has anxiety.
The environment, people and tasks a person has in a job will affect how the person feels in their daily routine. The jobs that I find were not suitable for me were hospitality and customer service jobs. I have previously worked in 3 cafes and 1 yogurt store. As someone who is stimulated by alone time, it can be exhausting to put on a constant smile and be somewhat energetic. I learned a lot in the process, in terms of how to talk to customers and be quick, concise and clean when making food. However, as an extremely sensitive person, having to deal with all kinds of customers really took a toll on myself. It also meant having to engage in small talk all the time, which understandably is expected. The second job that I found I was highly uncomfortable in was an administration position. It was in an open office environment and having to talk to people took a lot of energy for me. In the end, I left. Simply because I was not enjoying the tasks and I felt completely not myself.
From my experience, what I feel the desire to do is something that either allows me to express my creativity or makes me feel that I am contributing to make a difference in the world (big or small). The jobs I previously had were also music teaching and freelance writing. It made me realise that I am more suited for a job in which I am able to work independently, being able to communicate with one person at a time or within an environment where I don’t feel uncomfortable. For many of us INFJ, our relationship with people are extremely important, because we want to get along. Our deep dislike for being surrounded by gossip is real and if we feel ourselves surrounded by it, we want to remove ourselves from that situation. Which is why finding the right work environment and job position is so vital (which goes for everyone). I find that as a HSP I can take many words to heart and I can be hard on myself as a result. I will feel that I have not strived to do good enough. The importance of having a good boss really does affect INFJ’s.
At the end of the day, I feel the most suitable job for INFJ’s and HSP’s is something with meaning. We seek something deeper. When we can feel useful and use our abilities to make a difference. It is somewhere we feel safe and connected, whether that’s at home, hospital, church, library or private office. Whatever it may be, the main thing is to not feel disconnected. The best job depends on the individual. However, I feel that becoming a freelancer could be one of the INFJ’s dream job, because he/she can become their own boss. The INFJ can also have their own space to think and create ideas without disruption. Whether it’s becoming a freelance writer, photographer, graphic designer and so forth. Being able to manage your own time is something we INFJ’s are generally good at. Perhaps something in the creative industry, non-profit sector or medical sector. I believe many of us are also suited to becoming a counselor as we are great listeners and highly empathetic.
From experience, a few of the most draining environments is one that contain ongoing phone calls, human contact, loud noises, movement and don’t follow your values. Find something where you are able to work alone or have a supportive team around you. An environment that allows you to feel calm and something that makes you feel that you can make a difference or express yourself within. We will spend most of our lives working, which is why I find that it is so important to discover, experience and keep searching until you find a job that makes you feel that you are not simply doing it for the money. As most people, we work to earn money, but as an INFJ we crave something we can be passionate about. We need more of the sensitivity, creativity, caring nature and empathy that INFJ’s and HSP are able to give.
Are you an INFJ and HSP? If so, what do you do as a job – or what would you like to have as a job? Let me know in the comments down below :)