Everyone feels differently. I can tell you that as a living breathing person that we all may see the world with all its sunshine, rain and the people around us, but our heart feels it differently to others. Some may see the moon as a beautiful white pearl, where as others may imagine werewolves coming out at night. Some may stare delightfully at the raindrops against the window pane, and some may shed tears. In this case, everyone will feel a panic attack differently. The main reactions are similar (eg. hyperventilation, crying), but we all experience it individually – physically and mentally. The feeling of dying is real when you have a panic attack. This feeling runs over you like water in a shower and the world seems so empty in those moments of breathlessness.
I have previously written in more detail here, in terms of dealing with panic attacks and anxiety. There have been moments where it feels as if they come out of no where, and other moments where you can sense it coming. From my personal experience, most of the time it’s always for a reason even when I cannot see it in that moment.Panic attacks are not a sign of weakness. The biggest thing I have learned is that in the adult life, most true emotions are hidden. Panic Attacks, Anxiety and Depression are not a weakness. It’s something we learn how to cope with.
What I’ve learned is that:
- Not every person is understanding in this world, and that’s okay. Most people will come to their own conclusion or decide for themselves why you are having a panic attack, when they 1) don’t know you or 2) are making pre-judgments.
- Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. At the end of the day, the ones who are going to judge you or make you feel worse about things don’t matter. The ones who love you won’t judge you for anything. They want to bring out the best in you.
- Happiness is a choice, not a destination. As with everyone, some days are good and some days don’t go quite as you imagined. But in every day there is something that we can be so grateful of and that is the most comforting thing of all.
- People are scared to cry and scared to show emotion. It’s not appropriate to cry in public, and I would agree, as over the years, I have cried at work before and it’s a situation I definitely want to avoid. However, crying is not taboo and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. We are emotional creatures.
- The ability to have empathy is a powerful gift. If you have panic attacks, it is very likely you can be a lot more understanding of people who are suffering or simply upset.
- Positive self talk is extremely important. This means being kinder to yourself and loving yourself. If the negative voices get in the way it can really trigger a panic attack.
- Embrace your feelings and acknowledge the sad ones. Most of us want to look and feel happy. Smiling is beautiful. Yet, it’s important to acknowledge when you are sad. Don’t ignore those feelings but feel them and know when to let go.