Everyday we learn something new, and everyday we learn from our mistakes. I wish for a world where whatever we speak from our tongues could be as honest as what we think in our hearts. As you grow older, you realise the deeper meaning of the well known saying that “actions speak louder than words”. When I was younger, I was very trustworthy of what other people say and liked to think everyone was a good and honest person. It’s common for people to call it ignorance or innocence, but it was truly because I tried to see the good in others. As individuals, we may say things in certain ways that relate better to different people. We may like to say certain things because we know that’s what the other person wants to hear. We might say thoughts that are only half said, a created dream or a growing idea.
We can say kind words to others, talk about our ideas and the great changes we want to make in the world. But, if we don’t act upon it, then the words don’t mean so much. They lose their meaning. This is also connected to change. When we want to change something about ourselves, it’s easy to say “I’m going to change to be a better person by…”, it’s also even better to write those words down and process them into our thoughts. However, it’s truly believing in them and acting upon them, that we prove to ourselves that we are capable of change. An example would be my attitude towards making friends. I’d love to be able to meet someone and instantly click, but I know that when I make friends, instead of only being the listener, I need to make an effort to talk more. That is definitely something I need to change.
Have you ever met someone who had a very serious demeanour about them, but did something so kind towards you that didn’t require any words? Or a stranger that runs ahead of you to hold the door for you, when your hands are full of groceries? It’s those small gestures, that show the real character of someone’s heart.
True care towards one another is through the things we would do for one another, not through the things we say.
“Life is too short to be around someone that says they love you but doesn’t show it.”
― Elizabeth Bourgeret
“I never listen to what a person says. I look at what a person does because what they do tells me who they really are.”
― Patty Houser