Ah the ambiguity is real. I believe that when someone says “You’ve Changed”, it can be a positive thing, because we’re constantly changing. However, when it’s said in a negative way, it makes it feel as if we are supposed to be our old self. The only thing is our old self is living in the what was. Change can be for the better or for the worse. In the last 5 years there have been a lot of life changes, but it’s due to personal growth, which is something we all journey through. I do think that our teenage years to early 20’s is the period of time where all the physical and mental changes take place. We grow a little taller, hopefully a little wiser and we are more fearless when letting our hair down.
Life is always in motion. Every second of the clock ticks by. If you had a time machine, would you go back? No matter how happy, upset, euphoric or blue we feel, time keeps moving. When there are barriers that come into our lives, it’s how we overcome them that makes us stronger or weaker. When we fight to live another day, isn’t that such a wonderful achievement in itself? Sometimes we can take it all too seriously (I know I sure do at times), when really it may not matter in a years time or even a month. Although, even so, I would hope if I ever saw an old friend it would bring back the fond feelings just the same. Next time someone says “You’ve Changed”, smile and let them know that you are grateful for that. If we’re changing, it means we’re growing, learning and experiencing this thing called life.
The truth is that we cannot change others. Which is why it’s so important to stay true to who you are. Be yourself! You’re the only one who can be absolutely and completely you. Not to mention, you’re the only one in the end who can change yourself. We are however, influenced in some small or big way by those we surround ourselves with. Surround yourself with positive people. The ones who love, the ones who support you. The ones who encourage you always for the better. All those moments in your life when you feel crushed, burned down or a complete failure, remember that you’re worth so much. It’s what we do that reflects how we will go on. If we let others words hurt us, then they will. If we let people put us down, then they will.
The beauty of change is having the ability to make your own decision on who you want to be. When you feel a lovely complete harmony within your soul, whatever words that others may speak to hurt you, will fly off your shoulders like a feather. But really, I think the best thing to do everyday, is to wake up out of bed and just be you.