If you’ve ever read the book How Starbucks Saved My Life by Michael Gill you will know that the true happiness in our lives is the one we feel within. The one that cannot be defined by words, status, position or materialistic thing. We spend a huge majority of our lives working. We work to pay the rent, buy food and the necessities. That’s really the gist of it. The importance is to have gratitude for whatever opportunities comes within your direction. However, it is very common that we label ourselves by our career or position we believe we’re in. I believe it’s good to be proud of what you do. But, it is important to remember your self worth is not defined by your career. Often one of the questions we ask when meeting new people is “What do you do for a living”, it’s common and one of the basic questions to get to know someone. You may say I’m a teacher, I’m an engineer, I’m a musician. Accomplishment is praised. There’s no doubt about that. I can’t help feeling inspired by people who have reached and achieve goals within their lives.
It’s normal to identify ourselves by our job. The thing is to not let it hold our self worth. It’s great if someone is a CEO of a company or have been promoted from an assistant into management. However, this doesn’t mean they are a better person, just as someone who loses their job is not any less of a person. Our identity is not defined by how much we earn or what position we’re in. Children are often asked “What do you want to be when you grow up?”. This already gives the idea that our job defines us from a young age. It signifies being part of society. We are so much more. Whatever you do, do it with a sense of purpose. To make a difference and to learn from the role. You are simply who you are. No title, no stereotypes, no status.
True self worth. It doesn’t involve comparing with others. There’s no rating or competition. I believe it is having positive self talk and finding meaning within your life. You are here for a purpose. Not solely for your job. But, to bring happiness and joy into the world. To meet the people who may come and go or stay in your life. The relationships we have in our lives (including the one with ourselves) – they are the most precious.
“We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.”
― Malcolm X
“I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime.”
― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
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